Sappy Valentine's Day Surv.

Who do you like and why?
I'm in a relationship with Isaias right now, and I like him for a lot of reasons I could prattle on about for hours, but I'll leave it at he's just fantastic.

Have you ever been in love? If yes, how many times, and how do you know it was love?
No no no. I never say it in a relationship, but I always think it after the fact. The only person I ever told I loved in person was Cameron, and I thought it was love because my whole perspective of life was distorted.

Longest relationship you've ever been in, and why did it end?
If you want to call Joe a relationship, my longest relationship was 410 days. It ended because I'm insecure and he's unstable.

Have you ever changed for someone, if yes, how?
I suppose so. I became subservient.

Pretend I'm you ex, what do you want to say to me?

Joseph,

There's one thing I want to say, so I'll be brave -
You were what I wanted. I gave what I gave. 
I'm not sorry I met you. I'm not sorry it's over. 
I'm not sorry there's nothing to save.
No, I'm not sorry there's nothing to save.


Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes.

Have you ever cheated?
I don't know.

Would you date someone who's known for cheating, if yes why?
I wouldn't date someone notorious for cheating, and I'd prefer for a person never to have done it, but I also don't believe that cheaters never change. I know I have been in a situation before where I almost succumbed to the pressure to do so, and even though I gained the strength to drop it before it became something real, I can understand how easy it would have been for me not to do so. It's much easier than people may think to get yourself in compromising situations, and not everyone can do what I did and get out.

What's the most important part of a relationship?
Friendship. The easiest part of a relationship is the beginning, when everything is butterflies in your stomach and fluttering heartbeats, but that cannot last forever. Eventually, that passion will burn away into something both more and less potent: love. And that love cannot be healthy without a friendship as a basis. Yes, it's fun to kiss and cuddle, but you have to be able to laugh together. You have to be able to understand each other. Nothing works for long if that cannot happen.

Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?
Serious relationships, always, always, always.

When you are dating someone do you believe in going on "breaks"?
I think that maybe it could work for some people, but I don't think that would work for me.

How many people have you ever hooked up with?
I don't "hook up."

What's one thing you regret saying or not saying, doing or not doing in a previous relationship?
I regret talking to Cameron while I was dating Eugene. I never cheated on Eugene, but I was so sickeningly attached to Cameron that when he tried to pry his way back into my life as some sort of secret affair, I came far too close to letting him before I shut the door completely.

What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?
I have two opinions on this and two opinions only.
1. There is no appropriate "age" to start having sex. If you love someone, do what you want. Wait till marriage, don't wait till marriage. Doesn't matter. What matters is being responsible and doing it out of love and devotion and not raw passion.
2. However, if you are not old enough to drive yourself home afterward, you are not old enough to do something so important.

Do you believe in the phrase, "Age is just a number?" Why or why not?
Whatever and whoever makes you happy I guess, but it is rather suspicious when old, rich skeletons of men marry these hot women and call it love.

What about "Love at first sight"? Why or why not?
Naw. That's called lust.

Turn ons?
Dark hair. Stubble. Silliness.

Turn offs?
Pretentousness. Taking things too seriously. Messy eyebrows.
One of these is not like the other...

What do you consider a deal breaker?
Lack of ambition. Ignorance.

How do you know it's time to end a relationship?
There are lots of reasons to end a relationship, both illegitimate and legitimate, but if you are not happy, you should not stay. And I don't mean you had a fight and you're pissed off. I don't mean he didn't give you what you wanted or he said something offensive. Fighting is good! Fighting makes you stronger if you work past it. But I suppose, in general: if your relationship is holding your very being back, if your relationship is turning you into a person you do not want to be, if your relationship is not working toward something constructive, then it is time to end a relationship.

Are you currently in a relationship? If yes, for how long? If no, how long have you been single?
I am in a relationship. It's been a little over a month, so it's still pretty new. December 28.

Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?
I think that other people can make it work. I have never been that person.

Do you think people should date their friends?
I think people should only date people who they consider friends.

How many relationships have you had?
Several, but probably only three "serious" ones.

Do you think love can last forever?
I think that love itself can last forever, but I think that not everyone is capable of having a love that lasts forever. For whatever reason.
We'll see what happens to me.

Do you believe love can conquer all things?
No.

Would you break up with someone your parents didn't approve of?
I don't know. It depends on why they didn't like them.

If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating, what would it be?

Oh, Haley, Haley, Haley. I know how much you hate yourself. I know how scared and disgusted you are with the world around you. I know that you think you're worthless and I know how hopeless you feel sometimes, but that does not mean that you do not deserve the utmost respect. You are going to waste your time with these boys who make you feel like you're nothing, and you won't understand what's wrong with you. Waste that time! Do it! Do everything wrong, but make sure you learn from it because without it, you won't get to this beautiful place. Someday, you're going to get a job at Baskin Robbins and you'll meet this cute and quiet shift manager of yours and slowly, working with him becomes a dance that takes you to Texas Roadhouse on the day of the apocalypse and ringing in the New Year with hours of kisses, and even if this relationship crashes and burns, it will teach you that you deserve to be happy, that you deserve good morning texts and cake pops on your birthday, and for some unknown reason, you may snag, even if it just temporarily, someone who makes you feel like you owe a debt to a God you don't even believe in for bringing this person into your life. If it works out for long-term, it'll be great, and if not, you're going to be okay. You will always be okay because you're you. Remember that.

Do you think long distance relationships can work? Why or why not?
Yes. Travis and Colleen.

What do you notice first about another person?
I suppose the way that they carry themselves.

Do gay, lesbians, bisexuals or transgender people bother you?
Never.